Being happy doesnt mean that everything is perfect.

It means that you have decided to look beyond the imperfections...

Wednesday, April 14, 2010

Instead - By Huygen Hilling

"Instead of walking with you, I will crawl with you. Instead of talking with you, I will find ways to communicate with you. Instead of focusing on what you cannot do, I will reward you with love for what you can do. Instead of isolating you, I will create adventures for you. Instead of feeling sorry for you, I will respect you." 

I came across this on a FB page of another mum who has a child with WHS. This poem really rings true in our life with Ellie. Yes there has been times when we tend to get bogged down with what Ellie cant do.. But we REALLY do celebrate the things she can do, the small acheivments.  

As I have also blogged about MANY times, we get looks, comments, stares etc when we are out with Ellie. Yes this bothers us...

Yes this upsets us... 

Im scared of how it will be when she is older... and understands more

Do we let this stop us from going out with Ellie, Taking her out for walks, plays, and create her own adventures....??  ABSOLUTLEY NOT. Thats one thing we have never done, we have never hid Ellie or sheilded her from the world. She has as much right to her own adventures as any other child. 

Ellie will be what she will be... Its up to us to help her be the BEST that she can be


  1. The little things are what so many other people take for granted, they sure are so important.

    I totally hear you on the fact that there will be times that they will be hurt by others, I feel like hiding Violet away but then I think the world would be a lesser place without her and people getting to know her, as she has such a great personality and strength that amazes me as Miss Ellie would!

  2. In the words of the great Daryl Kerrigan...."Tell em to get stuffed!"

    You can't help those that are uneducated unless they want to be educated.

    You guys rock! And so does Ellie!

    Not that you would but don't let anyone ever tell you otherwise!

  3. What a wonderful poem. I am so glad that you shared it. You are teaching Ellie how to hold her head high. You are wonderful parents and Ellie is very lucky to have been born into your family.